Sexy Online Dating: Dating Advice

Dating Question...
So far, I've met two women from the internet, and both times they weren't as they described themselves. One said she was "average build" and was clearly overweight. What's the deal?

Answer:
This is the second most common complaint I hear from men. (The first being lack of responses to their ads.) Having talked to a lot of men and women, I think I finally found out the problem.

Men and women often have different definitions of the word average. Men think of a woman with an average build as being somewhere between skinny and fat. Women think that since the average adult woman is slightly overweight, then average is the correct term. Women aren't trying to be deceitful, and men aren't trying to be shallow... they just have differing views.

What can you do about it? Ask for a recent photo before you meet, and don't build up unreal expectations of your potential dates. I'm sure there's plenty of things about you that aren't perfect, too. Everyone has flaws, and everyone has things they'd rather not be the first thing a new person notices.

Physical appearance can be so entirely subjective that it's almost always better to let the picture do the talking, whether you're a man or a woman, young or old, skinny or plump. Don't lie or stretch the truth to fit what society or the media declares attractive... Find someone you thinks your the best thing since slice bread JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.

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